Recently I read a post where an influencer was encouraging her followers to ‘put themselves out there.’ I was scrolling when one comment in particular caught my attention. The young lady was a bit confused and asked a sincere question, ‘I don’t get it, where in the Bible does it say that?’
This really got me thinking, the young lady made a valid point, where in the Bible does it tell us to do that?
As a matter of fact, the Bible doesn’t say much about dating. But I believe The Word of God holds many principles that we can apply to different areas of our lives, including relationships and dating.
This was on my mind for a few days before I went to God about it, because I wanted to know about this popular advice so many people, including Christians, give singles. I too have been told countless times, by different individuals, to put myself out there.
But like the young woman I felt like I needed more substance, more direction than this cliché line. In my mind, putting myself out there meant that I had to go to places I didn’t want to go to, just so I can see and be seen. It felt so unnatural to go scout and be scouted, my main motive and mission was always to find the one.
Well, I sensed God lead me to Matthew 6:33 “but seek first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”
I found it interesting because I didn’t see how this scripture had anything to do with putting yourself out there.
Yet, as I continued reading I found God instructing us to ‘take no thought, saying, “What shall we eat? Or, What shall we drink? Or, What are we going to have to wear?’ I then sensed that there are so many others things we could add to the list: When am I going to get married? Or, Where do I find him? Or, What about my biological clock?
And interesting enough God says in the following verse that the heathen seek after all these things, and our heavenly Father knows well that we have need of them all.
He then instructs us “But seek you FIRST the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.”
It is my belief that in seeking God He will lead, guide and direct you in what you need to do for your specific situation, and who knows – it might be ‘put yourself out there.’ But we are all so unique, so different from everyone else – I think it is time to seek God and hear from Him about our unique lives and path.
We have got to get better at seeking God FIRST and His way of doing life, and that doesn’t always look like following the wisdom of the masses.