Last month, once again, I asked God for my part in this whole equation. What do I need to do to be found by the one?
I believe He gave me two words: ‘Get Ready.’
He confirmed it, a few days later as I was flipping through a magazine while creating my vision board for the year. Those exact words in bold letters jumped out from the page and caught my attention. Still, I wasn’t quite sure what they meant – did it mean I needed to start planning a wedding ‘by faith’ or was there perhaps a different kind of getting ready I needed to be doing?
And then this week, again, He reminded me of the two words as I was getting information ready for my first workshop, I sensed I needed to share this phrase with the women participating in the event. It was then that I decided to do a quick Google search on these two words and find out whether or not there was anything in the bible about getting ready.
I was in awe of what I discovered.
Not only did I find scriptural instances about getting ready but two of them actually had to do with marriage! Surely, this was no coincidence.
“Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready.” Revelation 19:7
Interestingly enough the woman made herself ready, she was a wife by the time the marriage came. And it’s the lamb’s marriage – not God’s, Jesus or the wife’s. The lamb being the very image of sacrifice.
Immediately, I was reminded of another scripture.
“Whosoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of the LORD.” Proverbs 18:22
The man found a wife, not a woman, but a wife, before the wedding day or marriage even happened. This clearly implies that as a woman there are certain things I need to do and must do to be found. Perhaps it is even necessary for me to first become a wife before meeting this man.
It definitely got me thinking, so many times as a woman I have wondered and have even been in circles where women were frustrated because they didn’t know what they needed to do or where they needed to go to find the one.
Perhaps the frustration and the delay has stemmed from the lack of preparation and development in becoming a wife, first.
The other scripture about getting ready came from the parable of the 10 virgins…
Five of them were foolish and five were wise. The foolish ones took their lamps but did not take any oil with them. The wise ones, however, took oil in jars along with their lamps. The bridegroom was a long time in coming, and they all became drowsy and fell asleep.“At midnight the cry rang out: ‘Here’s the bridegroom! Come out to meet him!’ “Then all the virgins woke up and trimmed their lamps. The foolish ones said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil; our lamps are going out.’ “‘No,’ they replied, ‘there may not be enough for both us and you. Instead, go to those who sell oil and buy some for yourselves.’ “But while they were on their way to buy the oil, the bridegroom arrived. The virgins who were ready went in with him to the wedding banquet. And the door was shut. Matthew 25:2-10
As a woman, it is our responsibility to be ready even if the one takes time in coming. We need to be prepared when the time arrives.
Getting ready is more than going on dates to find the one, putting yourself out there, finding the perfect wedding destination and saying some wedding vows. Our current culture places extreme importance on finding the one and the wedding day and no preparation is made to become a wife.
The importance of becoming a wife has to take precedence over everything, we need to shift our focus first on becoming fitted for a husband and then the wedding dress.
Today, my prayer became “Lord how do I become a wife, how do I become the wife he is looking for?”