I heard something that really resonated with me today. There’s nothing wrong with being single, but there’s everything wrong with being in a place at a standstill.
I don’t know in which category I truly fall. But let’s get this clear, first and foremost, I am called to marriage – there is no doubt in my mind.
The questioning comes in regards to whether I missed it and should have already been married or if I am right smack in the center of God’s perfect will for my life.
I guess on this side of eternity I may never know.
But the thing I know for certain is that the staying in the place of singleness has expired. And yet, so many people still want to keep me here, even Christians! As though, I haven’t yet learned enough, as though I need to set up tent, take a chill pill and just be ‘content’ in my singleness.
What these individuals don’t understand and may never comprehend is that I have been in this season for way too long, it is no longer a selfish desire to remain unmarried, but a desire that has stemmed from a hate of divorce, single-parent homes, broken marriages, child abuse. A desire that has flourished into the ardent desire to make the wrong right. To be the solution and not the problem.
I feel like I have been long overdue to be out of this stage. I desire to help other women step into their own marriages, because although I have not yet arrived into that community I believe that marriage will release an aspect of myself that I would never be able to tap into on my own. I am created in the image of God and God is both male and female, I am just a piece of the equation.
Not yet fully complete without the qualities of God, that are instilled in my husband…a man.
If I was supposed to be ‘content’ then I am allowing the enemy to continue to wreck havoc in our families. If marriage wasn’t all that important why is everyone seeking it…other cultures, other religions, even same sex communities. I think it’s time to wake up people and instead of buying into the ‘be content’ lie, help bring up single men and women of God to step into their God-ordained marriages with integrity and purpose.